I was about to start on another series of pen making (I have 50 ready to turn) when I quickly checked my emails and read one from a friend who is doing a journey with his father who only has a few weeks left as a result of terminal cancer. While my heart goes out to him, It caused me to stop and reflect upon my own life and more particularly the passing of my father, Ross last year.
In some ways I felt robbed because his death was both sudden and unexpected. I other ways, I can truely be thankful because in the last few of his days, I had the chance to share with him in a really practical way. Dad was my inspiration for the practical hands on aspect of my life. We would fix and build things together. From lawn mowers needing repair to automobile gearsticks that come out in your hand, Dad was there to brainstorm solutions and work to see those solutions implemented.
My hobby (now business) of woodturning is a direct result of his influence. As I make things, I can see his artisan eye being cast over the finished product and the following words of praise and pride in the work I had done. But more than the encouragement, Dad was a man who stuck by you. He was a stalwart in his profession and in his family.
I need to remind myself of my father’s example every time I’m not on my A-game. When I’m showing up at less than my best to those I love most. I’m guilty of that more times than I care to remember. I don’t think I’m alone in the shortcoming, not that it makes it anymore acceptable. It’s ironic that those most important to us often get the worst of us when we’re not at our best…whereas we’ll put on a brave, pleasant face for strangers we might never see again. It’s all too easy to let awareness slip when in the company of those we take for granted.
So, As I come to this moment, I am so thankful for the family and friends that I have. For those through out my life who have shaped my personality and set me on a path to today. It is with a grateful heart that I look forward to tomorrow with excitement as to what opportunities it will bring.
To my many friends in the United States, have a wonderful Thanks Giving. Please take a moment to pause and reflect (I know you will) and consider those who have influenced you.
For those who may be interested, the photo below is of my Dad. There is also a link to the eulogies that were written and read by myself and my siblings at his funeral. I hope that it gives you a little more insight into your own relationships.
Regards David David Campbell Public Speaker, Coach, Author, Celebrant John Maxwell Team Member Director +61 413 602 459 firstname.lastname@example.org ddkcampbell.com.au/meet-with-david/