I was offered the above statement by my mentor/coach (Christian Simpson) today. What a challenge!
“Much of that fear is generated by the unhealthy attitude we secretly harbour towards financial wealth.
I’m not questioning the wanting. Every business owner on this planet wants the kind of wealth that generates the lifesyle freedom we all aspire to.
No, I’m questioning the believing.
What do you really believe about financial wealth? How is that belief evident in your life today? What do you really believe about your worthiness of financial wealth? And how is that belief evident in your life today?
Most well-intentioned, hard-working business owners are fighting a losing battle.
It’s got nothing to do with the economy, competition and a lack of support from the banks, and everything to do with the contradictory forces that exist in their lives.
On the one hand, there’s the blood, sweat, tears and hours of hard work. We entrepreneurs put a shift in. But hard work alone doesn’t make a millionairre.
And on the other hand there’s the legacy of deep-seated ideas that have formed limiting belief systems – unsubstantiated, unconscious ideas that massively implicate results.
There’s a lot of people who think positively and unknowingly believe negatively.
‘A house divided against itself cannot stand’.”
Today I have had the chance to sit in 3 waiting rooms, for consultations. I used to hate having to wait because I saw it as an infringement on my time. After all, I made an appointment for a specific time, so why can’t they be on time too?
Maybe I’m getting older in my attitude (I know I am ageing) or maybe I have changed my thoughts about what I do in a waiting room but my attitude has changed.
As I have been sitting, I have used the chance to observe those in the room and those who have come and gone. Coaches seem to enjoy watching people.
What have I noticed? The secretarial staff are open and friendly but I can see some work efficiencies that they could implement simply to save time in their day. Such as moving the printer to within reach, rather than having to get up to retrieve printed documents all the time.
The people waiting seem to be different from me. They come in, engage with the secretary and then take a seat. They reach for one of the many magazine selection on the table and commence flicking through magazine after magazine. I used to do this too. I would never buy one of those magazines but I would flick through them in the waiting room.
The doctors are very please people. They all greet their next patient. Usually with an apology for the wait with a comment like “thank you for being so patient in waiting”. I like that. It acknowledges they wait and places value on the individual. Some business owners could learn from that statement.
Then there is me! Aside from writting this blog, I have also spent productive time in my accounting system, responding to emails and of greater importance, thinking into my business. Over the past few months I have been focused a lot more on thinking. I don’t mean thinking about what the next task is but thinking about the future.
The catalyst for this has been my desire to reduce and minimise unproductive habits. I am finding that this change in me is changing my approach to business and changing my business.
Why not give thinking a try. Call me if you would like to understand more.
Lately I have been approached by a number of business owners who want to see different results on business and life. Some are incredibly successful and want to move forward. Others are just unhappy with where they are at in life right now.
The thing they have in common is that they are seeing the results of their current thinking. They aren’t moving forward. You could say, they are living life by looking in the rear view mirror and expecting different results.
Let’s be honest, the results you current see are the outcome of the thinking you previously put in.
If you want to see different results, you need to apply different thinking.
One of my frustrations is that we are not prepared to put the effort (and it it) into thinking into our life/business. Coaching brings a significant impact to how you think and the results you achieve. Contact me for a no obligation conversation on how coaching can help you right now in your life/busines!
I was about to start on another series of pen making (I have 50 ready to turn) when I quickly checked my emails and read one from a friend who is doing a journey with his father who only has a few weeks left as a result of terminal cancer. While my heart goes out to him, It caused me to stop and reflect upon my own life and more particularly the passing of my father, Ross last year.
In some ways I felt robbed because his death was both sudden and unexpected. I other ways, I can truely be thankful because in the last few of his days, I had the chance to share with him in a really practical way. Dad was my inspiration for the practical hands on aspect of my life. We would fix and build things together. From lawn mowers needing repair to automobile gearsticks that come out in your hand, Dad was there to brainstorm solutions and work to see those solutions implemented.
My hobby (now business) of woodturning is a direct result of his influence. As I make things, I can see his artisan eye being cast over the finished product and the following words of praise and pride in the work I had done. But more than the encouragement, Dad was a man who stuck by you. He was a stalwart in his profession and in his family.
I need to remind myself of my father’s example every time I’m not on my A-game. When I’m showing up at less than my best to those I love most. I’m guilty of that more times than I care to remember. I don’t think I’m alone in the shortcoming, not that it makes it anymore acceptable. It’s ironic that those most important to us often get the worst of us when we’re not at our best…whereas we’ll put on a brave, pleasant face for strangers we might never see again. It’s all too easy to let awareness slip when in the company of those we take for granted.
So, As I come to this moment, I am so thankful for the family and friends that I have. For those through out my life who have shaped my personality and set me on a path to today. It is with a grateful heart that I look forward to tomorrow with excitement as to what opportunities it will bring.
To my many friends in the United States, have a wonderful Thanks Giving. Please take a moment to pause and reflect (I know you will) and consider those who have influenced you.
For those who may be interested, the photo below is of my Dad. There is also a link to the eulogies that were written and read by myself and my siblings at his funeral. I hope that it gives you a little more insight into your own relationships.
Regards David David Campbell Public Speaker, Coach, Author, Celebrant John Maxwell Team Member Director +61 413 602 459 firstname.lastname@example.org ddkcampbell.com.au/meet-with-david/
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Just taking some time to reflect this morning. I found this great quote.
“For you were indeed called to freedom; only do not let your freedom be an incentive to your flesh and an opportunity or excuse for selfishness, but through love you should serve one another.”
As I have been reflecting on the calling and application of leadership (or management or business ownership), I have been challenged that the leadership model adopted and embraced by so many has significant flaws. Most models are represented by a pyramid with the leader and aspiring leaders working their way to the top.
This model fails to take account of the later part of my initial quote. What does love require of us as leaders?
As I reflect on the leadership positions that I have held, the greatest personal and corporate success has come when I have realised my freedom to serve the people working for me. Allowing them to develop a sense of self worth and knowledge that they are trusted to do their job.
By entertaining this type of environment, the leader allows the team to build trust and deliver a service that is directly supporting the corporate direction and goals. The staff develop a sense of self worth and the workplace becomes a place that people want to come to.
I know of at least one organisation that has realised exponential global growth through inverting the leadership paradigm. By having a true appreciation of his own calling and self worth and by living the leadership example, he was able to birth the largest organisation in the world today. He not only knew the leadership model of serving the team, he understood the greater question of “What does love require of me?”
It takes a leader with inner strength, freedom, a knowledge of self worth and a working knowledge of love to build an amazing environment.
– If I can overcome ANY problem then I have NO problem
– The bigger the problems I overcome, the bigger I become
– Don’t make problems smaller; make me bigger
– Everything is an opportunity to see what I am capable of
– Need to deliberately (and sometime gratuitously ) expand my comfort zone
– Every choice is a positive one – there are no wrong decisions just opportunities to learn and grow
– Growth mindset means we do not rely on our talents
– Everything can be improved and we are NEVER a finished product
– Ultimately – it’s cause and effect!
If the plan doesn’t work, change the plan not the goal.
I was inspired by todays image. It got me thinking thinking about strategies and about the number of small business that I am working with right now. Having a goal is critical to moving any business or activity forward. But a goal without a plan to achieve it is equally as useless. I meet so many business owners and would be business owners who have either not taken the time to write down their goal or if they have, the layer of dust on it is so thick that it would trigger an asthma attack if it were to be lifted off the shelf.
Having a goal is so critical in business (in life). I have mentioned these two incredibly wise and powerful statements before:
1. For want of a vision, the people will perish,
This speaks of the need for everyone (staff and customers) to know and understand the vision.
Many years ago I had the privilege of leading a team to develop a project proposal for a new ICT concept in Government. Where I worked were teams of people delivering various aspects of IT and each team was to contribute a person to the project. As people joined the team, I took the time to personally cast the vision of why we were doing what we were about to do. I then gave each member a week to prepare a presentation on what we were doing. As an exercise, I got some push back but in the end, every ember of the team totally understood the goal and vision and their part in the delivery. If problems arose (and they did) they were happy all get in and solve the issue together. Ownership of the final deliverable was high. Everyone knew what part they played in the end result. They had personal buy-in. If you don’t understand or believe in what you do and why you do it, neither will anyone else. The power of buy-in is incredible strong when it comes to growing your business.
2. Write down the goal so that others may be able to run with it.
Apple’s Why is to “Challenge the status quo” Uber’s is “Transportation as reliable as running water, everywhere for everyone.”
Of themselves these statements are interesting but useless. The fact that they are written down and that the team has gathered around the battle cry speaks of a leadership who have created a vision that is written down such that the people can run with it.
These two thoughts lead me back to the need to have the goal and a plan to achieve the goal. The goal is the fixed point in the future that you are aiming at. The focus of your why. You need to have the plan to move towards the goal and where the plan is not working, we can have the tendency to want to change the goal to fit the plan. I hope you have someone in your business who will challenge you to lift your head and see the forrest rather than the trees. The Goal (Why) is what drives your passion. Change the plan to realise success, not the goal to fall short of the vision.
Coaching is a way to stay true to your goal and adjust the plan to realise the goal rather than sacrificing the vision (why) at the alter of delivery of the plan.
When General Robert E. Lee was asked by Confederate US President Jefferson Davis to give his opinion about a certain officer, he gave a glowing report. One of the officers in attendance was amazed at his words and said to Lee, ‘General, do you know that the man of whom you speak so highly to the president is one of your bitterest enemies, and never misses an opportunity to criticise you?’ Lee said, ‘Yes, but the president asked my opinion of him. He didn’t ask for his opinion of me.’ It takes character, compassion and courage to speak well of a critic. But when you do, three good things happen: (1) You increase your own value. You show you’re able to rise above criticism by bestowing praise on another. (2) You defuse your enemy’s criticism of you. When people hear your praise of a critic and their disdain for you, their respect for you rises and they see you in a different light. (3) People see you as fair-minded and generous. It takes very little effort to respond in kind to a critic, but it takes Christlike character to turn the other cheek and bless them. Word for the Day.